The pressure we put on ourselves and from others can be crippling
Is it ok to laugh? It's sometimes hard to know what you can let yourself do: you can laugh, you can cry. Our memories are mixed and they are real... it's ok.
The short answer to the question of humour being ok is yes…. Yes it is OK to laugh.
Life is not predictable
Life can be:
- Happy and sad
- Black and white
- Love and hate
- Sadness and joy.
I fondly recall many funeral services where I have conducted when there has only been a handful or so of people in attendance.
We would sit in a circle together, often near the coffin and I would begin to invite people to simply recall memories and stories, or moments of significance shared with the deceased.
On occasion these intimate times have became funny...really funny.
With so much joy and laughter. Did they miss the person any less? … No, they were simply being true to their memories including the ones of great joy… despite their significant loss.
You can experience all sides of the emotional ledger
Surely the complete experience of a relationship in life must include all sides of the emotional ledger.
It then stands to reason that we should experience all sides of the ledger, even in death.
Our memories are mixed and real…. yes you can laugh, you can cry, you can even remain neutral!
Just be honest with where you’re at and remember to implement good self care.
“I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge. That myth is more potent than history. That dreams are more powerful than facts. That hope always triumphs over experience. That laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death.”
- Robert Fulghum
By Steve Morrison