"don't get ahead of yourself"


As I have done more than 1000 times before, I waited in the foyer as people arrived for the funeral I as officiating. We were ready, the coffin was in place, the flowers looked beautiful, the main image was on the screen, and the sign-in books all had a pen next to them.

It was a small gathering on this particular day, and the deceased’s family had arrived and spoke with me and the funeral director. The deceased was an elderly lady in her late 80’s, which I am assuming made her son and daughter in law to be in their 50’s, and grandson in his early 30’s. They spoke warmly of their loved mum and grandma and retold some special memories that they held close to their hearts.

Her son said, “She pre-planned this whole service, you know. It made the journey so much easier and better knowing that we knew her wishes for today.”

He went on to say to his wife, “We should go and do the same in near future.”

The son immediately jumped in and said to his dad, “Don’t get ahead of yourself.”

It is in moments like this where I want to intercede in the conversation and reassure the family that there is no such thing as getting ahead of yourself.

For none of us know the number or length of our days, or how much time we have on this earth.

Without being morbid, it is important to realise that you are doing your family a massive favour by pre-planning your funerals, and if possible, paying for them. When the time comes to enact those wishes, your family will be ever thankful that you had designed and/or paid for your funeral.

I firmly believe in living every day with passion and conviction, putting in our full heart, soul, and mind in to enjoying this present moment. Be mindful, be aware, be joyful to live in this moment. Plan for the future with vision and the assumption of endless possibilities. But remember, none of it is a guarantee. Dream anyway. Hope anyway. Plan anyway.

And in your planning:

  • If you are 18 or older, please have a Will written and signed.
  • If you are 50 or older, please have a funeral planned, or at least ensure that your loved ones know if you wish to be buried or cremated.

One of the greatest gifts you can give your family and your loved ones is to:

Prepare for the worst and live for the best.

Oh and by the way; l hope to live a very long and healthy life, but if I was to die today at 47, I have enough life insurance in place that would see my family financially set up for everything they need.

Let’s get ahead of ourselves!!


By Steve Morrison